Public Speaking Fear: How To Overcome It – Part 2 (The Mind Spiral)
Welcome to the second part of “How To Overcome Your Public Speaking Fear”. In the last post we looked at the fact that fear is something we use to protect us. We think that our fear helps us, and will get us out of the fearful situation.
In part 2 of this blog post series we are looking at stopping the process of asking our minds why we have the fear. The spiral usually starts with us getting fearful about an event. Then we ask our mind how we get past this fear, our mind says it doesn’t know, then we go crazy and get annoyed with ourselves. The whole process is self-defeating in many ways. How does it help you to ask your mind for an answer it doesn’t know? It really doesn’t.
Throughout our lives we have been programmed to ask our minds for answers. We believe that our minds hold the key to all our answers. The fact is our mind is divided into 2 parts;The conscious mind which is the more analytical part of our mind, and the unconscious part of our mind which is like a warehouse that stores all our thoughts and beliefs about the world in which we live in.
So how do we stop asking our mind for an answer? Well the process takes a firm decision on your part and a firm belief that you are in control of these thoughts, and that you are the boss. Let me ask you a question right now ‘Who do these thoughts of fear, worry and anxiety belong to?’ They belong to you don’t they. If these thoughts belong to you then, answer me this question ‘Who is it that decides to believe these thoughts?’ You do, don’t you. Can you see that your fear of public speaking is something that exists inside of you, can you see that you really do have control over your public speaking fear?
Hopefully by now you can see that by asking those 2 questions you can move out of the trap of asking your mind and getting stuck. When we realize that we have control and that these thoughts are just thoughts that belong to us, we can take the first step towards overcoming our public speaking fear.
Next time we will look at how we can begin to actually drop this public speaking fear altogether. For now I really want you to take a look at this fear. Your task is that every time you have this public speaking fear, begin immediately to ask the above questions:
1) Who does this thought of fear belong to?
2) Who is it that decides to believe that this fear is real?
With those 2 questions you can then make that decision to either believe the fear or not believe the fear. It then becomes a decision for you, and you only. If it is your fear, then you can let it go. Isn’t that a more powerful place to come from? Before I leave you I have one more special treat for you. I’m going to give you a link to a chart of emotions that I would advise you look through and study. I’ve found this very same chart extremely beneficial when helping people overcoming public speaking fear. It is important you familiarize yourself with this chart as this will help next week.
Okay that is it for overcoming your public speaking fear for this week. If you need any extra help then consider emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org. You can also get a free 30minute ‘Breakthrough Your Fear Strategy Session’ by booking with me on my website.